Why do I feel so responsible for everyone else's feelings and struggle to set boundaries without guilt?

Feeling responsible for others' emotions and experiencing guilt when setting boundaries are common signs of caretaking protective parts and relational boundary burnout. Individual therapy integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) helps unburden these parts, regulate anxiety, and set healthy boundaries from a grounded Self.

Why do I overthink conversations, text messages, and worry people are upset with me?

Overthinking interactions and fearing you made a mistake are common manifestations of high-functioning relational anxiety and hypervigilant manager parts. Combining IFS parts work with attachment-based therapy helps quiet the mental chatter and build internal security.

How does Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) help couples stuck in recurring arguments?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Imago Relationship Therapy help couples slow down recurring conflict loops, identify the underlying pursuer-distancer dynamic, and re-establish emotional safety so arguments can actually be resolved.

How do you help couples rebuild trust after betrayal, lying, or broken promises?

Rebuilding trust after betrayal uses structured frameworks like the Gottman At-Atonement, Attunement, and Attach (AAA) model alongside Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to process deep hurt, establish full transparency, and safely repair emotional safety step-by-step.

Do you offer couples therapy for open relationships, polyamory, or consensual non-monogamy?

Yes, we provide relationship-focused therapy for partners navigating open relationships, polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment frameworks, we help partners manage jealousy, establish clear boundaries, and maintain a secure core bond.

Do you offer couples therapy for neurodiverse and neurotypical relationships (ADHD, Autism)?

Yes, we specialize in relationship therapy for neurodiverse couples (including ADHD, Autism, and neurotypical partners). Using neuro-affirming Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and adapted Gottman Method frameworks, we help couples break the parent-child dynamic, navigate executive function gaps, and build mutual emotional attunement.

How does family therapy help with escalating arguments and communication breakdown?

Family therapy uses Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to slow down reactive argument cycles, reduce defensiveness, and help family members communicate underlying needs without escalating into conflict.

Do you offer family counseling for blended families, stepparenting, and boundary shifts?

Yes, we specialize in family therapy for blended families and step-parenting dynamics, helping family members clarify roles, navigate loyalty conflicts, and establish healthy relational boundaries.

How can family therapy help bridge the distance between parents and teenagers?

Family therapy addresses parent-teen communication gaps by balancing the teenager's need for autonomy with emotional safety, helping parents break the pursuit-withdrawal cycle and rebuild genuine connection.

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“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.”

Esther Perel, Psychotheraspist & Author

is this you?

Below are real-world situations written from the perspectives of individuals we may support through relationship-focused therapy.

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- What this is: Relational burnout, codependency, and anxious boundary patterns.
- How therapy helps: We view this as a protective, caretaking part of you that learned managing others was the only way to stay safe or valued. We help unburden these protective parts, soothe the nervous system anxiety behind setting boundaries, and help you lead from a calm, grounded Self.
→ "I catch myself overthinking conversations, text messages, and minor interactions long after they happen. I constantly replay what I said or how the other person reacted, wondering if I did something wrong or if they're upset with me."
- What this is: High-functioning relational anxiety and anxious attachment triggers.
- How therapy helps: We identify the "manager" part of your system that uses hyper-vigilance and overthinking as a strategy to prevent rejection or conflict. By blending IFS parts work with attachment-based therapy, we help your internal system feel secure so you can quiet the mental chatter and stop relying on constant external validation to feel safe.
- What this is: High-functioning relational anxiety and anxious attachment triggers.
- How therapy helps: We identify the "manager" part of your system that uses hyper-vigilance and overthinking as a strategy to prevent rejection or conflict. By blending IFS parts work with attachment-based therapy, we help your internal system feel secure so you can quiet the mental chatter and stop relying on constant external validation to feel safe.
- What this is: Self-abandonment and emotional suppression in relationships.
- How relational therapy helps: When you've spent years accommodating others, your authentic Self gets hidden behind protective parts focused entirely on peace-keeping. IFS therapy offers a gentle, non-pathologizing way to unblend from those caretaking parts, reconnect with your core emotions, and clarify what you genuinely want and value outside of your relationships.
- What this is: Fearful-avoidant / disorganized attachment patterns and internal part polarization.
- How relational therapy helps: This internal tug-of-war is a classic polarization between two parts of your system: an anxious part that craves connection and an avoidant protector that fears getting hurt or controlled. We bring compassionate awareness to both sides so they no longer have to fight for control, creating internal harmony and true safety in intimacy
- What this is: The "people-pleaser" or "fawning" protective part and chronic self-suppression.
- How relational therapy helps: Resentment is a signal that your boundaries have been crossed and your real needs are going unmet. By mapping your internal family of parts, we help your people-pleasing parts step back so your core Self can step forward—allowing you to express honest boundaries and cultivate genuine, mutual connections without abandoning yourself.

Recognize Yourself in These Thoughts?

You don't have to keep managing these patterns on your own. Feeling anxious, exhausted, or disconnected in your relationships isn't a flaw in who you are—it's simply a sign that protective parts of your system have been working overtime to keep you safe.

In our individual relationship therapy sessions, we create a calm, collaborative space to help those overworked parts step back so you can build genuine self-trust and secure connections.

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Individual Therapy Process:

✿Explore Your Relational History

We unpack your past experiences, early attachment patterns, and current struggles to understand how you show up in your relationships today.

✿Identify Cycles & Set Goals

Together, we pinpoint the specific patterns you want to shift and create a personalized roadmap to help you build confidence and boundaries.

✿Active Learn Skills & Integrate

Practice emotional grounding, boundary-setting tools, and clear communication techniques in session and integrate them into your daily life.

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01: Session Rate

$150
Session cost per 50-minute virtual session

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Q&A

Have more questions about individual therapy?

A relationship therapist can help you explore how you show up in your relationships and understand the patterns that shape your connection with others. Even in individual sessions, the focus can include communication styles, attachment patterns, boundaries, conflict responses, and recurring dynamics in romantic, family, or social relationships.
In individual therapy I primarily use Internal Family Systems (IFS), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Emotion-Focused Therapy.
Yes. This approach focuses on a wide range of related concerns, including:
- Anxiety, stress, and overwhelm
- Self-esteem and confidence
- Life transitions and major changes
- Boundaries and people-pleasing patterns
- Emotional regulation and coping skills
- Family dynamics and childhood experiences
- Communication challenges in work or social settings
- Grief, loss, or unresolved past experiences
- Trauma
We simply look at various challenges through a systems and relational lens.
As a systemic therapist, my work often involves treating relationships, family dynamics, and broader life systems rather than focusing solely on an individual diagnosis. Insurance companies typically require a mental health diagnosis to reimburse services.
Choosing not to participate with insurance allows me to protect your privacy, offer more individualized care, and work collaboratively without limitations set by insurance requirements.
Yes, many clients are able to receive partial reimbursement for therapy through their out-of-network benefits. Here’s how the process typically works:
1. Contact your insurance company and ask whether your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits. You can also ask about your deductible, reimbursement rate, and whether you need preauthorization.
2. After payment, I can provide you with a superbill — a detailed receipt that includes the information insurance companies typically require for reimbursement.
3. You submit the superbill directly to your insurance provider, either through their online portal or by mail.
4. If your claim is approved, your insurance company will reimburse you directly according to your plan’s out-of-network coverage.
Because every insurance plan is different, reimbursement amounts and eligibility can vary. I recommend contacting your insurance provider directly to better understand your specific benefits.
In most cases, yes. Insurance companies typically require a mental health diagnosis to process and reimburse claims for therapy services, including out-of-network reimbursement.
If you choose to submit a superbill to your insurance provider, the documentation will usually include a diagnosis code, along with the dates of service and other required clinical information. This diagnosis becomes part of your medical insurance record.
Paying privately allows for greater privacy and flexibility in treatment.